#50 Catch up with somebody who I haven't spoken to in more than a year

The last fifteen months have been unusual. While unable to see friends and family face-to-face we have got creative with video calls, Zoom meet-ups and virtual get-togethers. However, I wonder if, like me, you have let some relationships become more distant? Perhaps deliberately because you find the person challenging or unintentionally because you're both preoccupied with other things.


I was delighted to reconnect with two important people in my life over the last couple of weeks. One is a friend who I haven't seen for a few years, she has had a tricky time and I am so pleased that we were able to meet with some other friends over a drink and some knitting and catch up. The other is a young man who lived here as a teenager, who called me out of the blue, his memory jogged when he passed a place that we had once been to together.


So I challenge you to phone a friend, meet up with a former colleague, have coffee with a neighbour or organise lunch with family. The more ways we have to connect with others the worse we seem to get at it and virtual contact is no substitute for the real thing.



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